'Uncle' David




Mandy Horne


 
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This is a true story extract from my full memoir, relating to an incident that happened shortly after my mum met my future stepfather. It is the forerunner to 5 years of abuse. I have used alternate names throughout my full memoir as it includes individuals I did not want to identify by name. I am Donna in the story, at 7-years-old. It is 1973.

I look at ‘Uncle’ David nervously, but also quite excitedly, as he gives me a one pound note for a trip to the shop. We call him Uncle because he has asked us to but he isn’t a real uncle, not like Mum’s brother, Uncle George. He’s Mum’s new friend and seems to be here at our house quite a bit, often when Mum is out working as well as when she’s at home. My sister, Tracey, and I don’t really like him being here that much. He sits on our sofa in the living room and watches things on TV that we don’t understand or want to watch ourselves, like sport and the news. Sometimes he asks us to sit quietly with him and sometimes he asks us to go to our bedrooms to play on our own. We both prefer it in our bedrooms when he’s here. Today though, he seems to be more friendly than usual which, for some reason, makes me feel a bit nervous, but also happy at the same time.

Go to the corner shop, will you Donna, and get me 20 Embassy and the Daily Mirror and then you can choose whatever sweets you like for you and Tracey with the change’, he tells me as he passes over the money.

Mum doesn’t let us have sweets that often because she says it will ruin our teeth. I’m always jealous of my friend Lisa because her mum gives her chocolate or sweets for snack-time at school every day; like a Flake or a bag of cola cubes. My mum gives me an apple or a banana. I also don’t really understand why Lisa’s teeth are straight and white and mine are crooked and off-white, with a brown stain on my front tooth that I always try and cover up when I laugh. I often fantasise that when I’m older, and have my own house and money, I’ll have a basket of chocolate bars always available on top of the sideboard in my brown and cream coloured living room. I like staying at Nan and Grandad’s at the weekend, as Grandad comes home each Saturday night from work with either a Fry’s Chocolate Cream or a Bar 6 for me. So, Uncle David saying I can buy some sweets of my own choosing from the shop with his money is a surprising and rare treat.

The shop is only round the corner from our flat in Upminster Bridge and I head off down the stairs and across the car showroom below. It smells of stinky smoke as always because Eddie has a customer in the showroom and is showing him how good the engine of a blue car sounds. I shout ‘Hello’ to Eddie as I walk past quickly, trying not to breathe in again until I go through the front doors of the showroom. Eddie waves in return. I like Eddie. He’s really friendly and always talks to Tracey and me when we get home from school and while mum’s at work; checking we’re alright and whether we need anything. We never do need anything, or at least that’s what I always tell him as Mum says we shouldn’t bother people.

I skip along the road to the shop and smile at John, the shop owner, as I walk in through the shop door. He greets me with ‘you seem bright and chirpy today Donna, what’s made you so happy?’

I need 20 Embassy and a Daily Mirror for Uncle David please John. Then you can help me with choosing some sweets with the change please’, I say, assuming he then knows why I’m happy. I hand over the money to him while he’s getting the cigarettes and paper and wait for him to tell me how much change is left.

That’s a lot of money for sweets, are you having a party?’ John asks me. I tell him about the conversation with Uncle David and how he’d said I could use the change to buy whatever sweets I wanted for Tracey and me and so he moves across to where the sweets are, waiting for me to make my mind up. I know Tracey likes the sweets from the jars behind the counter best, so I choose her a quarter each of sherbet pips, cola cubes, pineapple cubes, flying saucers, rhubarb and custards, fruit salads and sherbet lemons. I’d make sure she knew not to eat them all at the same time, recalling how I had discovered her two weeks previously eating the entire contents of the sugar jar and then being sick after she’d been told off. Or, to be more accurate, being told off after I’d told mum what she’d done. I had felt a bit guilty after getting her into trouble and I imagine now how excited her face will be when I give the sweets to her. I was thinking maybe it was a good way for me to say sorry without actually having to say the words.

Then I give some thought to what I would like. I prefer chocolate bars. I haven’t tasted many but know that I like Fry’s Chocolate Cream, so I choose 2 of them, one green one blue. Then I choose the bars I’ve seen Lisa eating: Flake, Crunchie, Mars and, to make it up to 7 (the same number of things I’d bought for Tracey), I add the only non-chocolate things I like - a sherbet fountain and a packet of Refreshers. I like the zing they give me in my mouth. John says I have a bit of change leftover from all of that, so I top my selection up with a few LemFizz; thinking that maybe I deserve one more thing than Tracey, as I’m the one who has run the errand for Uncle David. John puts them all in a bag for me and hands them over the counter with the few pence change that remains. I figure that we probably have enough chocolate and sweets to last us a good few weeks, especially if Mum finds out and doesn’t let us have something every day, so I think Uncle David will be happy with a bit of change, even though he’d told me to spend it all.

When I get in and Uncle David hears the door shut behind me, he shouts out from the living room, ‘you took your time, why were you gone so long’? He then pops his head round the living room door to hear what my reason is. I reply that I don’t get to choose sweets that often, so it had taken me a while to think about what to get, and I hand him over the bag and change.

I knew something was wrong as soon as he looked in the bag. His face looks really angry - his eyes bright and glaring - which puzzles me as I’ve done exactly as he’d asked and am really happy with my purchases. ‘How much have you spent, you stupid girl?’ he shouts, looking at me in a shocked way that makes me feel really frightened. ‘I only said you could buy some sweets with the change, I didn’t mean for you to spend the WHOLE of the bloody change on buying out the shop’s entire stock of sweets and chocolate! You’re useless and greedy, that’s what you are.’

I hadn’t heard anyone talk to me like that before and I didn’t think I’d done anything wrong, but his voice scared me so much that I started to cry. Tracey was looking worriedly at us both through the doorway, not understanding what was happening, but knowing that it was something bad and that Uncle David was really cross with me. He grabbed hold of my arm, hurting me as he pulled me out of the room, his fingers gripping on tight. He held me that way until we reached the car showroom downstairs, telling me to stop being such a crybaby and that we were going back to the shop to take all the sweets back. Also saying that I was so stupid I didn’t deserve anything, but Tracey could have one of her bags of sweets because she hadn’t done anything wrong like I had. I saw Eddie look over at us as we passed him and then look away.

I follow Uncle David into the shop with my head down, so that I don’t have to look at John, as Uncle David explains to him that there has been a complete misunderstanding and asks if John can give him back the money for everything other than the cigarettes, newspaper and bag of sherbet pips. John seems a bit quiet and confused but does as Uncle David asks.

When we get back to the flat, Uncle David says that I should go to my room and then asks Tracey to come and sit with him, giving her the remaining sherbet pips. Despite her earlier worry, this seems to make Tracey happy.

As I sit in my room going over the situation in my head, not truly understanding what I had done to make Uncle David so angry but thinking, like he had told me, that I was obviously stupid for getting it wrong and buying too many sweets, I roll up my sleeve where my arm is hurting and notice there are bruises in the shape of Uncle David’s fingers. I pull down my sleeve and lay down on my bed, not doing much other than thinking to myself. Mum’s due home soon and I don’t want her to know that I’ve upset Uncle David, so I decide that I’m not going to tell her anything, or show her my arm. I am, however, a bit worried that Uncle David might tell her about it and that might make her cross with me. Mum only really gets cross when we are very naughty and that doesn’t happen that often. When she does, she’s never as scary as Uncle David was today. Mum seems to like him a lot though, so I guess she won’t be very happy with me if she knows I upset him.

I decide that I need to try harder to do exactly as Uncle David tells me to do in future, as I don’t want to ever be shouted at like that again.

I’m 57-years-old, live in Suffolk, and have been writing poetry and stories for the last ten years, but have only recently been able to focus on making a career out of it. My writing relates mostly to experiences I have had in life: loss, mental health problems, and my interest in the environment. This I write in poetry, prose, short story and memoir format, but I am also writing a science-fiction novel with my partner. I have not published anything yet, nor won any competitions. I am hoping this will be a first!



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