Frenemy; or The Snare of the Rainbow Glare
Copyright 2021 by TWP Tilden
is not my ally because:
- It/Them (since grammatical pronouns are supposedly
antiquated, triggering, toxic constructs) never see me as an ally.
- Color obsession is not color-blindness.
- Allies exercise partnerships & pacts that
are mutually beneficial towards survival and protection.
- There is invariably a power
dynamic, glaringly inequitable and saliently eroticized;
the very – and loudly taunted –
alliance is fueled on perpetuation of this imbalance.
- It/Them very seldom have (other) black friends and
very, very, very seldom outside of sexual relations.
- To it/them I am inescapably
foreign: a fetish, experiment, pet or token; I am “well-spoken/
-mannered/ -behaved”, and, if I be regarded truly outstanding, “not
like the rest of them.” I am special because it/them confessed it so to me.
- Loving black culture is not the same thing as
liking, or even knowing, black people.
- Mimicking our black women is not cute or endearing.
It is far from cool.
- It/Them can cannot be
homosexual. It/Them can change their stripes (and
often do). Conversely, my black, black body, covered head to sole,
front to back, and masks to soul is immutable now and forever.
- It/Them know everything and
remain irrepressibly – genuinely! – surprised that I know anything
outside of the context of being black.
- It/Them don't not fall far from the tree ---
contrary to what I am supposed to believe.
- It/Them find it hard to believe
integration is no all-consuming goal of mine; nor interracial
relations, a secret preference. How one registers with what visible
pains it/them digest the unfathomable one-sidedness of that particular curiosity!
- I am expected – encouraged – to stop assigning
worth to, or taking pride in, the only aspect of me which is valued by
- But, ultimately, at the core,
it's that the homosexual “community” tries too damn hard to convince me
that it is the ally of my people. To this trending little white lie I
wrote this piece to encourage us to see the world from different
angles and "another's shoes," ones which I'm sure scant few
have previously imagined, let alone considered.
native Hoosier, author is a graduate of Wabash College (IN). He has
traveled the world as a backpacker and been in many unusual and
memorable situations. Other than globetrotting on curiosity and
one-way tickets, his life is pretty unremarkable and
uncomplicated. But he endeavors to write. Mr Tilden lives in
Spain with his ex-wife and their cluttered desks and fragrant lemon
of the message
won't know where to send it.)
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