Critical Pieces Of Advice For All Our Future Sons And Daughters
Copyright 2022 by Abdallahi Hamby
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letter is for not only my future son(s) and
daughter(s) but for all of our future sons and daughters. For in
fact, the next generation is all of our responsibility and they will
be the ones to hold all of us in their hands. Your son might be my
daughter’s future husband or vice versa. Your daughter’s
decisions might be the ones to drastically influence my son. The
possibilities are endless and so are the ripples.
Future Sons and Daughters,
As you embark on this beautiful and
complex adventure called Life, I thought I’d share some loving
advice for the road ahead. Take all of it or take some but, most of
all, take it and make it your own.
1. Embrace your unique
and imperfect self.
You don’t belong in any
category. You are not defined by any term that has existed before
you. Don’t ever feel pressured or convinced to fit in. No
one is perfect. You are an individual and there is only one of
you. You define your life. You define your lifestyle. You define your
career. You define yourself.
Be honest with yourself. I’ll
always want you to stay true to yourself —you’ll shine
brightest. Stand out — that’s what makes you
outstanding. You are here for a reason—own it.
Practice gratitude each day.
Although you can’t be
defined by anything that has come before you, the world exists as it
is today due to the blood, sweat, and tears of men and women who have
come before you and I. Strangers, friends, our family…the
men and women who didn’t give up. They are the reason we
have the rights, technology, and knowledge we do. They all
contributed to get us where we are today. Be grateful, put these
blessings to good use and learn to appreciate the small things.
Leave a legacy.
Think about how the light bulb or Facebook
changed life as we knew it. It came down to one idea. This means that
you also have every chance to make your own impact. You can make a
difference, small or large, each day. There is nothing stopping
you. Be the fire. Success has nothing to do with the
material. It’s about leaving things better than when you first
came across them.
4. You attract the energy you put
You’ll have your ups and downs in life but
don’t lose your smile or your fire.
Stay positive. It only
multiplies. You get what you give. Surround yourself with what makes
you feel good. And remember pain is temporary—this too
5. Speak up and stand up.
always matters. Whether it’s your opinion or your “no.”
up for those who can’t speak for themselves. Empower others to
find their voice. Stand up for what’s right and what’s
equal. Be a feminist. Be a game changer. Don’t stand in a box
and don’t stand for boxes.
6. Do what you love.
Everything else is secondary.
To be cliche—life is
too short. You should smile and laugh every day.
things because you feel you have to or that you “should.”
Do it because you want to. Find your passion then figure out a
way to do it every day. And if you can’t figure out a
way—I’ll help you create a way.
vulnerable, be alive.
“Vulnerability is our most
accurate measurement of courage… the birthplace of innovation,
creativity and change. ” — Brené
Don’t numb yourself. Don’t try to play it
cool. Live smart but live passionately. Take risks and be
greatest moments of your life will come from putting yourself out
there and getting in the “arena.” You may win, you may
not—but at least you tried. Don’t worry —I’ll
be there to help you dust yourself off if need be.
are worthy of every ounce of happiness and good fortune.
are many beautiful parts of life – and you’re worthy to
experience all of it. Don’t allow anyone to make you feel
any differently. From seeing the world to being in love, these
are gifts that are yours for the taking and to enjoy. Feel grateful,
humbled and bask in it. Let it inspire you.
9. Make empathy
With each person you meet, I want you to
exercise empathy. You’re going to come across people who have
different opinions, outlooks, and lifestyles. Not everyone was raised
like you. Not everything is black and white.
Know that everyone
has a story—multiple stories at that. Everyone has more to
them than what is seen on the outside. Give them a chance to express
it and listen up! Before you form an opinion or respond, put yourself
in their shoes. Trying to understand others is the first step
towards breaking down barriers both large and small. See similarities
first, then differences.
10. Be self-aware.
your own best friend. Go places alone. Get to know yourself. Do
things to grow, learn and develop. Meditate. Practice mindfulness. If
you’re healthy and still on the inside, the external won’t
matter as much. The internal should be, for the most part, the
beginning and end of all that you do.
That’s all I have for
now but know that I’ll be with you every step of the way.
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